what is love bombing?
love bombing is intensity out of proportion to the stage. the affection, the promises and the pace all sound real, they're just calibrated for a relationship months further along than the one you're actually in. week two reads like year two.
it isn't measured by how nice the messages are. it's measured against a calendar. the same message that's lovely at month eight is a lot at day six, and the difference is the whole finding.
what love bombing looks like in a chat
- volume against history. hundreds of messages and three "you're different to everyone" before you've known them a fortnight. the intensity is real. the fortnight is also real.
- future promises as currency. the holiday, the meeting-the-parents, the "when we live together". described early, described often, booked never. future faking is the sibling pattern: the promise does the work the follow-through never has to.
- the tell is the trajectory. ordinary warmth builds. this arrives fully formed and stays at maximum, because it never had anything to build from.
- what happens when you slow it down. ask for a gentler pace and watch the next reply. warmth adjusts. a campaign sulks, escalates, or takes it personally.
"never felt like this": 4 mentions · days known: 9
what love bombing isn't
the honest hedge, because the receipts cut both ways:
- enthusiasm is not a crime. some people fall fast and mean every word. speed alone convicts nobody.
- some people are just warm. long messages, heavy affection and daily check-ins can be a baseline, not a strategy. a register that's consistent from day one and stays consistent is a personality.
- the pattern is disproportion plus the response to friction. intensity that outruns the stage, and pressure where adjustment should be. one without the other is usually just a person who likes you.
one follow-on worth knowing about. in some chats the temperature drops the moment the investment lands: the catalogue calls it the switch-up. if the warmth flips once you're in, that's its own finding, and it gets cited like everything else.
how to check the pattern against the evidence
you could re-read the whole honeymoon again. or you could line it up:
- put the intensity against the calendar. which week was "love of my life" first deployed?
- count the futures. how many have been described, and how many have a date, a booking, anything?
- find the last time the pace was questioned. what did the next three messages do?
textRay does the measuring for you. screenshots, a WhatsApp export or pasted text go in, the scan reads both sides and comes back with the verdict, the receipts, and the pattern findings. if love bombing is supported, it's cited: "love bombing — 71% pattern match", quotes and timeline attached, counterevidence one tap away. if it's just two people who like each other a lot, you get that instead. calmer either way.
check the pace against the calendar.
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The plain version.
Findings describe patterns in a conversation. They are never a diagnosis of a person, and intense affection on its own is not a finding; the scan looks at proportion, trajectory, and what the messages show over time, on both sides. You consent before any AI processing happens, and reports stay in your history until you delete them.